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Christian Truth in a Living Relationship Help – And Speaking The Truth Even When Others Disagree

Are you looking for Christian relationship help because you struggle with speaking the truth in your relationships? Then, this biblical truth and tip will help you. It is especially problematic to communicate your perceptions, feelings, choices, needs, and beliefs to difficult people. One of the misconceptions we have is thinking that we have to get the other person to agree with our truth. This keeps us in a place where we are stuck and unable to move on when the person doesn’t agree with us. We react by arguing, nagging, threatening, lecturing, and re-explaining. This wastes a lot of time and energy.

People don’t have to agree with us in order for our truth to be our truth. People disagree because they have different agendas, priorities, opinions, preferences, worldviews, and experiences. Don’t get sidetracked from expressing what is right for you because others disagree. And, don’t feel like you need to change your truth. We can agree to disagree.

We also desperately want people to understand us. When they don’t understand, we try harder to make ourselves understood. If people want to understand, they will work at understanding by being engaged. When they don’t want to understand, they won’t try. When you see someone refusing to try to understand your point of view, stop trying to explain.

Difficult relationships have miscommunication and misunderstanding as one of the main problems. Difficult people often don’t want to hear your truth and don’t respect your truth. It is nice and helpful for others to understand what you are saying, but difficult relationships typically don’t work that way.

Don’t insist the other person understand or agree with you. Speak your truth regardless of whether others agree or understand. You speak your truth, because it is your truth and you have decided it needs to be said. Matthew 10:11-14, 34 tells us that we need to be who we are, speak our truth, and accept the fact that there are those that will disagree. Let go of the desire to convince them and move on doing what you know you need to do. This Christian relationship help is designed to empower you to speak your truth clearly with conviction.

One of the great keys to being able to understand the Christian life is to realize that living the Christian life is living a paradox. My understanding of a paradox is simply this. Two ideas that seemly conflict with each other but taken together reveal a greater truth. I have found this to be a very critical key to understanding the word of God. Much confusion and misunderstanding arise because this goes unnoticed, polarization between Christian groups occur as well.

One group rallies around the truths about having life more abundant. Another group rallies around the truths about laying down your life and taking up your cross, self sacrifice. Each group has a collection of their favorite scriptures that support their position, so which one is right? Both are right and both are wrong. Not only that, often they actually fight against each other, even separate from each other, with each side convinced they are correct.

What do we do with these two scriptures; John 10:10 “…I came that they might have life, and have it abundantly.” Matthew 16:24 “…If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.” There appears to be a conflict here between these two ideas. One says lay down your life and one says there is more life to be gained, so what do we do? We walk in both truths in the exact same moment in time. That’s living the paradox! As we deny ourselves taking up our cross we will have life and have it more abundantly. There is no conflict here at all. As I said earlier both sides are right and both are wrong. Each side has just one side of the paradox. What if the key to a more abundant life is hidden in the truth about taking up your cross? You see there is a greater truth in there!

Gods thought are not our thoughts. He operates on a much higher level. How much higher? As high as the heavens are above the earth. I believe God often hides truth inside a paradox. He hides truth from the wise and the prudent, and He hides truth for His children. All the treasures of wisdom are hidden in Jesus and we are in Jesus. They are hidden for us not from us. But they must be understood in Him, and He is not in anyway divided against Himself.

It is no wonder so many people feel the Bible is full of contradictions. That is what a paradox is. Statements that seem to contradict each other but when taken together a greater truth is revealed. So as Gods people lets not try to convince the world that there are no contradictions in the Bible, lets just share the truths hidden in them!

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Neither Labour Not in Self-Righteousness, Neither Be Laden With Sin For Both Condemn

There are none more to be pitied than a Christian who remains in bondage. It matters not which type of bondage, be it to sin or be it to a labor of self-righteousness. Either will waste the precious gift of grace and freedom for which our Savior Jesus Christ died.

In the book of Galatians, the apostle Paul addresses a group of Christians who are near to falling into the enslavement of legalist. In this, the only bible book authored by Paul that does not include within the opening lines a statement of commendations and courtesies toward his readers, the urgency of his message is overwhelming. In fact, there is an instant clarification of two truths. First, Paul establishes his person authority as a chosen apostle of Christ. This positions his right to write what follows in the book. Second, Paul reaffirms the single most constant and important of all Christian truths: Jesus Christ gave himself for our sins. The unspoken implication is that Jesus did this alone and with no other to stand in a position of sharing the work. He delivered us from the wickedness of this world. He did this according to the will of God the Father.

Thus Paul sets the stage for an assault against any who would place work, bondage to the laws, or bondage to the scriptural interpretations of men, above the labor of Jesus on the cross. Indeed, he is very adamant about the matter. Any who do so are not themselves children of the living God. The text reveals it in this manner:

“I marvel that ye are so soon removed from him that called you into the grace of Christ unto another gospel: Which is not another; but there be some that trouble you, and would pervert the gospel of Christ. But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed. As we said before, so say I now again, If any man preach any other gospel unto you than that ye have received, let him be accursed,” (Galatians 1:6-9).

Later on in the book, Paul uses a quote from the Old Testament as part of his argument concerning men who say that we must live under the law. And Paul speaks not only of the rules and legalist additions that men will add to scripture, but he also speaks of the law as written in the scripture when interpreted and applied to us by legalist people.

Author, teacher, and preacher Charles Swindoll often speaks of those who would throw the baby out with the dirty water. This is such wonderful imagery of what happens when Christians are always throwing scripture at other Christians. There are so many people who would glory in taking dominion over the flesh of another. They have a rule, and a verse, and a law for every moment of life. How miserable must they be in the face of a God who came to give us life and that more abundantly?

In the book of Matthew, we read the following words:

“At that time Jesus answered and said, I thank thee, O Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because thou hast hid these things from the wise and prudent, and hast revealed them unto babes. Even so, Father: for so it seemed good in thy sight. All things are delivered unto me of my Father: and no man knoweth the Son, but the Father; neither knoweth any man the Father, save the Son, and he to whomsoever the Son will reveal him. Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light,” (Matthew 11:25-30).

Notice how that these truths are hidden from the wise and prudent (Read here self-righteous and arrogant). You cannot know the Father unless you know the Son, and knowing the son requires that you surrender your own efforts. Walking in the Spirit means hearing the voice of God through prayer, meditation, fasting, and scripture – and always with balance.

“Come all who labor,” he says. What is labor in this context if not that self-effort to make one’s self holy by works and deeds of obedience to the rules and laws of this world, to the wants of other people, and to the will of those who count themselves in full understanding and authority over every written word of scripture. No, it is not by your labor to keep laws that you will find rest, though this states not that the law is bad. For indeed the law is good. Paul addresses that in the book of Romans. But law cannot contain sin. No, rather Satan uses the law to excite men into sin.

“Come all who are heavy laden,” he says. What is this heavy load that the Christian endures if not that which is inflicted upon them by the self-proclaimed keepers of the law? Or is it the self-guilt that arises from our own failures against personal sin and the condemnation of those who have a continuous voice of what we must do and what we may not do? It is both. For if we are the servants of God, why do we seek to please men. Know you not that this too grieves the Holy Spirit of God. If you walk in the Spirit, you will not please the flesh. This means you will not sin, but it also means that you will not become a slave to those who would dominate your flesh by their personal convictions.

“Come unto me,” he said, “and I will give you rest.” Why is it that the yoke of Christ is easy? Why is the burden light?

Jesus wants total control of our lives. If we can shut down the personal battles for self-righteousness, and the fruitless flesh-based war against personal sins, we can learn to look at the world as Jesus sees it.

We begin to help others. Not by cramming law down their throat, though we must keep order within the church. Not by driving them to weep and to cry day after day over their shortcomings and failures. No. We help others by speaking words of edification, by ministering to their needs, by guiding without shoving, by discerning without judging, by loving without demands.

You can pack up the car of salvation so full of law that there is no place for any to set, and then you can push salvation around for the whole of your miserable life. Or you can throw out of the self-righteousness and self-works and pride so that you can ride in a car that is being driven by the Holy Spirit.

I have written simple words with simple meanings. If you are a true Christian, you know that no child of God will walk in deliberate sin without feeling the chastisement of the Father. Furthermore, you know that no child of God desires to walk in such a lifestyle. Stand when you must, but always do it with a measure of grace. This is living in peace.

If you are not a Christian, perhaps you are pondering the words I have written. Maybe you have been punched and kicked by a legalist. Perhaps you are bitter at the church. I do not tell you that Jesus permits us to walk as careless and wicked people. No, the Spirit of God will not abide in such as those who refuse to hear the full teachings of salvation. I do tell you that Jesus loves you like you have never in you life known love. He receives you into his flock with quickness and compassion. You don’t have set any records straight before you enter in. Just ask, by faith, and watch the most astonishing miracle ever conceived bring about within you a change, a confidence, and a peace like no one in this world can never know aside from Christ.

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